Relationship Tips: How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Find Your Soulmate
The
law of attraction is the belief that “like attracts like” and that by
focusing on positive thoughts, we can bring about positive results. By
understanding and following this simple rule, you will be empowered to
attract a lifelong partner. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have
when you know how to activate and use this unlimited power that lies
within you. Here are 10 ways to use the law of attraction to find and
keep your soulmate.
1. Be positively clear about what you want in a mate. Each
“failed” relationship has given you clues about what you want in your
ideal partner. The problem is many women and men focus on the negative
instead of the positve. For example, by saying that you don’t want a man
who “puts his work before the relationship” you are focusing on a man
who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously
sending out through your energy.
The
good news is, if you know what you don’t want, you know what you do
want. Your power to create lies in your ability to choose thoughts that
are positively clear, so that you can tell the universe exactly what you
desire. (“I want a man who puts me first and loves me
unconditionally.”) You can tell if your affirmation is positive or
negative by the way it makes you feel. If it makes you feel great, it is
positive. If it makes you feel bad, it is negative. It’s that simple!
If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, simply turn them around
and start focusing on the positive. You will immediately feel better
and you will be in alignment with love.
2. Continue to dream it. If
you are ready for love, one of the best things you can do is get lost
in day dreaming about your perfect mate. As you imagine your ideal
partner, the universe receives these images as indicators of what to
create in your life. In your imagination, you can create and improve on
your desired relationship it until it meets your highest ideal. Once you
have that ideal image in your mind, replay it over and over until one
day soon you will find yourself actually living it. The power of your
imagination is unstoppable and can transform your love life
3. Fall in love with yourself. You
can’t expect someone else to fall in love with you if you are not in
love with yourself. When we judge or criticize ourselves, we send out an
energy that repels others. Self-criticism is a negative energy that
will repel potential mates. On the other hand, self-love is attractive
and attracts potential mates. Make a list of ten characteristics you
love about yourself and put this list where you can see it every day. It
doesn’t really matter what is on the list as long as it easily
generates good feelings that you have toward yourself. The more you
focus on what you love about yourself, the more self-love you will
experience. Others will fall in love with you too, simply because it
feels great to be around people who love themselves.
4. Say “no” to jealousy. It’s
natural to feel jealous when we see someone experiencing something we
desire and don’t have, but jealousy will actually keep love from coming
to you. Jealousy is a negative emotion and will repel what you desire.
Instead of feeling jealous, understand if you are seeing someone else
living your dream, your dream is getting closer. So instead of being
jealous, celebrate the love you see and bless all the
loving relationships you witness. In this way, you are telling the
universe to bring you some of that! (And it will!)
5. Don’t give up. The
number one reason the law of attraction doesn’t appear to work is that
people give up before their wish is granted. It’s like ordering a
delicious meal and walking out the diner before your order arrives. The
order is on its way, but if you are no longer in alignment with it, you
will miss out. When it comes to love, people get disappointed when their
dates don’t meet their expectations and they don’t see evidence that
true love is coming. Out of disappointment or fear of being
disappointed, they give up — never knowing what they missed. The key to
the law of attraction is that once you are clear you desire something
specific, you must commit to it for as long as it takes to manifest in
your life.
6. Don’t give in to doubt. We
live in an obliging universe where it is possible to experience all our
dreams and desires. One of the biggest obstacles in manifesting what we
desire is doubt. We want something, but we doubt that it’s possible. It
is actually the doubt that keeps it from coming. Knowing is a positve
energy and opens the door for attraction. Doubt is a negative energy and
closes that same door. When you are in alignment with attracting your
perfect mate, there is a sense of knowing he/she is on their way.
7. Enjoy yourself now. Don’t
wait for love to find you in order to start living. You will attract
what you are: if you are a couch potato, you will attract a coach
potato. If you desire a mate who is active, goes skiing and likes to
read, you better start jogging, getting on the slopes and hanging out in
Barnes & Noble. Don’t wait for him/her to arrive in order to live
your best life. Start living your best life right now and you will
become super attractive so that special person will be able to spot you
in a crowd — because you shine.
8. Become the future you. There
is a current “single you” and a future partnered or married you. One of
the best ways to use the law of attraction to attract your perfect guy
or girl is to become the person who is already in the relationship. This
is how it works: think of yourself now and think of yourself in your
perfect relationship. How are you different? Who do you become once you
are in the relationship? Maybe your answer is, “I become relaxed,
confident, loving and kind.” Your answer is your clue to who you must
become now.
Don’t
wait for the relationship to manifest, you must first become the person
who already has these qualities. This includes preparing your space for
the partner of your dreams: Clean out your closet, empty a draw or
replace that worn-out wallpaper. Think of all the ways in which you can
prepare yourself and your life to be in perfect alignment with your
perfect mate.
9. Get your beliefs in order. Examine
your beliefs about love and clean up any beliefs that don’t support
attracting, having and keeping your perfect relationship (“I’m not
attractive enough” … “I don’t make enough money” … “All the good ones
are taken”). The universe has a way of making your beliefs true, so if a
belief doesn’t support what you really want, it is time to drop it and
develop beliefs that do. The universe responds to your feelings about
yourself; if you are feeling unworthy or undeserving, the universe
reflects this back.
10. Don’t question how it will happen. Your
job is to clearly and positively define what you most desire and to get
in alignment with your desire through all the ways described above.
Your job is not the how. Don’t get caught up on how it’s going to
happen. We live in a magical universe that can bring you exactly what
you desire in the most amazing and even unbelievable ways. Getting
caught up in the how can actually impede the law of attraction. If you
are trying to control the how, you are likely getting in the way and
making it more difficult than it has to be. Instead, let go of any ideas
about how it has to happen and allow the universe to do its magic.
This
doesn’t mean you sit home and do nothing. The difference is that you
await inspired action. Inspired action is that sudden feeling you should
go the coffee shop even if you are not thirsty or you should get gas on
the other side of the street. The law of attraction communicates to you
through your intuition so make sure you are listening and following
those gut feelings. Most of all, be open to all possibilities — you
never know how the universe will deliver.
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