13 signs you are NOT really serious about him
1. INSIGNIFICANT THINGS REALLY BOTHER YOU
A
sweater he wears, 5 pounds he needs to lose, the way he sings in the
car—these things make you want to crawl out of your own skin. When you
really love someone, those things are cute, or at the very least
tolerable. But if there’s no real connection there, the little flaws
stick out like a sore thumb.
2. HE DOESN’T CALL FOR TWO DAYS, AND IT DOESN’T DRIVE YOU CRAZY
Um…hello in there, do you have a pulse??? Two days of zero contact from
the man you’re allegedly in love with, and you’re chillin’? Sure,
feeling crazed when a guy doesn’t call is not pleasant. But it’s also a
symptom of loving someone. You should be upset.
3. YOU’RE COMPARING YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO OTHERS
When
you’re really in love, you don’t care what everyone else is doing. Your
friends and their boyfriends eat at restaurants more, or already met
the parents? Great for them. Those differences in your relationship
don’t feel like a problem. When you’re sure about things, you don’t see
small indescrepencies as problems. But, when you have a hunch you’re not
meant to be with a guy, you want the details from all your friends about their relationships. You’re looking for evidence that things are off with you and your man.
4. YOU CRAVE ATTENTION FROM OTHER MALES
When
getting dressed to go out, you still dress with men in mind. You’re
daydreaming about the guy who will be eyeing you in that little black
dress from across the bar. Basically, you get ready like a single girl
does! That doesn’t say much for your level of commitment to your man.
5. HE’S NOT THE ONE YOU RUN TO
When
you’re upset about something, crying to your man seems like
the obvious thing to do. But instead, you immediately think to call your
friend, or your mother, but never your guy. If you really wanted to be
close, he’d be your go-to for when you need a sympathetic ear.
6. THE IMAGE OF YOU TWO STANDING AT THE ALTER GIVES YOU ANXIETY
Just
picture it: you two gazing into each other’s eyes, everyone you know
sitting and watching, celebrating your union. How does this make you
feel? If you feel uncertain, that’s okay. But you shouldn’t cringe at
the thought. That reaction will never change.
7. YOU’RE LIVING WITH DEAL BREAKERS
There
are things that clearly wont work out in the long run, but you’re still
seeing the guy. He’s of a different religion from you, even though you
only want to marry a man of the same religion, he is a hardcore partier,
even though that’s not something you want in your life. You’re only
still with him because you’re avoiding the question: what next?
8. YOU’RE FINE WITH PASSIONLESS SÉX
Even
in great, loving relationships, there will be times when neither of you
are that into it—nights when it feels mechanical and forced. That’s
fine, it happens. But it should bother you.
You should want, badly, to build up some passion for the next time. But
if you’re complacent about your, well, complacent séx, you’re probably
not to into anything else he has to offer either.
9. YOU’RE DISRESPECTFUL TO EACH OTHER
You
verbally put your man down, even in front of others. That’s often your
subconscious’s way of working out your anger over being with the wrong
person. You’re too weak or scared to leave the person and be alone, but
you’re not happy with him, and that tension has to be released somehow.
It’s released through you lashing out at your man.
10. HE’S LAST ON YOUR TO-DO LIST
You’ll
see what your friends are up to for the weekend, then your family, then
you’ll check if there’s anything you’d enjoy doing alone and then you’ll
see what your guy is up to. Essentially, he’s a time-filler. He’s the
next best thing. But he’s not someone you just can’t be without.
11. YOU FEEL A LITTLE GUILTY AROUND HIS FAMILY
Deep
down you know you won’t be around forever, and they’re expecting you to
be a daughter-in-law and the mother of their grandchildren someday.
When the expectations of not just your man but also other people come into play, it’s hard to suppress the guilt.
12. WHEN HE WANTS TO DROP BY YOU BECOME IRRITATED
Your
guy asks if he can just come over and hang out on a day you were
planning on doing nothing. Instead of thinking how nice it will be to
have him around, you think of how annoying it will be to have to
entertain someone, what a hassle it will be to have to find lunch for
you both, and that he’s getting in the way of your lazy day.
13. YOU’RE STILL ASKING YOURSELF IF YOU LIKE HIM
Basically, you opened this article! That’s not a great sign. When you know you’re serious about someone, you know. Dig deep into your memory. Surely you’ve experienced that undeniable attraction between you and another person before. That is what you should be feeling.
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